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Permalink Reply by Tom on September 4, 2010 at 3:53am

You've just gotta keep your head up. Talk to friends, enjoy life. A levels are tough and I struggled with mine, but luckily still did alright in mine.If you've attempted suicide or are getting close to that stage I really recommend closing your eyes and thinking about how your family and close friends would feel. My brother has attempted and it's really not nice, everyone is overcome with guilt. Just talk to family if you're finding life too hard to bear, or possibly seek medical help from a doctor - psychologist or psychiatrist.

You could also try picking up a new hobby or changing your lifestyle by trying new things. Keep your head up man :)

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Permalink Reply by Muhammed Gouda on September 5, 2010 at 1:12am

well I was gonna see a shrink who's in my area but he's abroad at the moment
and then I guess learning how to play guitar and how to draw wasn't a bad idea then thanks for the advise man.

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Permalink Reply by Lore on September 4, 2010 at 3:39pm

Just remember that you are not alone. A lot of people get depressed (myself included) when you do feel as though you are getting depressed again just talk to people close to you and / or seek medical help.

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Permalink Reply by Reese Leysen on September 4, 2010 at 11:56pm

What do you think causes your depression?

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Permalink Reply by Muhammed Gouda on September 5, 2010 at 1:47am

I won't go into details but I'll say what I think was my cause this year
It all started when my chem teacher started crushing me and destroying my dream of being a bio-chemist or pharmacist, I tried to cheer myself up by hooking with a girl I really liked but some how found out that she hates me , this got me really down in the dumps but I was clearing up again a few month later I was almost fine again thru a rock at a friend of mine who was a girl and got suspended for a few days when I cleared up exams where over and about 2 months later got depressed again cause I though that all I cause is pain and sorrow it was then I tried wrist slashing but my little sister stopped me then after the arabic ministry exam results(an exam all egyptians have to take) came out I failed I realized then how worthless I was and tried to overdoes on a painkiller I had been prescribed once but it didn't kill me. then I cleared up with an epiphany of how I can use this chaos to my advantage and maybe one day become a great novelist and entrepreneur beyond imagination and that's why I need not to get depressed again.

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Permalink Reply by z-man on September 5, 2010 at 4:00am

I was in a similar situation when I was 19.

I can tell you that your future is independent of what you experience now.

I failed my 6th years, I nearly did not passes my retrial. I gave up wanted to go to work because I felt worthless, but a teacher convinced me to do a 7nd year so I had at least some diploma.
Something interesting happened that 7nd year, it was so easy that I got the taste to go to high school. Sadly enough the depression was still in effect so I failed my first year but they changed Bachelor from a 2 year to 3 years so I got 2 years.

The interesting thing is that no matter how much I failed, in the end I got everything I ever dreamt of and even more. All I had was a delay of a few years. Also the many times I failed actually gave me a very interesting experience and I use these experiences to help others :-)

I also tried 3 times suicide, but failed. But when I now look at the happiness I give to my girlfriend every time, and the number of people I actually pushed beyond their limits to become even better,it was all worth that pain I had to endure back then.

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Permalink Reply by z-man on September 5, 2010 at 4:25am

One of my teachers once told me that we were too stupid to understand Einstein's theory of relativity ever.
Boy was he wrong :-)

I failed informatics big time in school. What am I now? A very good software developer. :-)

There is one thing a depression will do. It will distort reality so what you think or what you think others think about you is an illusion and distorted. It is a bit like being drunk. our perception of reality is influenced.
Just promise one thing, when you feel bad, just talk to people on ipower and give them the time to respond.
Also realize that we are human too and make mistakes. We might not give an answer you would like to hear but the intention to help you because you are worth it is very real.

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Permalink Reply by ThereAreNoSides on September 5, 2010 at 12:29am

Answering the kind of question Reese poses, will help you find the root cause of your depression, and often these go back to childhood experiences or faulty belief systems which you may have been programmed with, as you grew up. It really takes from self-investigation. CBT can assist with that.

My view here: http://www.therearenosides.org/how-to-get-out-of-a-depression-tans016

Re-programming your thoughts for "how not to be depressed" is almost exactly the same as "how to be happy" - they are the same habits, just coming from different starting points.

Best wishes! :-)

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Permalink Reply by z-man on September 5, 2010 at 4:46am

I totally agree with you.
You can reprogram your thoughts once you realize that it is possible.

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Permalink Reply by Muhammed Gouda on September 5, 2010 at 1:08am

Thanks a lot guys all of your advise are of use to me and who knows maybe this time I'll kill depression once and for all.

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Permalink Reply by z-man on September 5, 2010 at 4:09am

In my case I got rid of the depression when I stopped fighting it and accepted it to be part of me.
I never had the depression ever again but I did manage to get twice in a burn out, but oddly not feeling depressed.

You do have this jojo effect, sometimes you feel super, the you get this backlash, then again super. The ups and downs. This is normal.

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Permalink Reply by Muhammed Gouda on September 5, 2010 at 4:36am

maybe your right it's just normal maybe not I'll be going to that shrink just in case like if it's something that got locked up in the past I'll get rid of it , if it's my ass over reacting I'll still get rid of it.
cause one way or another I want to be somebody

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