I had this idea for a personal self development movement called "Pwning Life" going on 4 years ago. Since then I've been doing my best to be pwning my life and trying to come up with a system for it. Both have been tricky endeavors, but I feel like I've been making a lot of progress in both and the system is coming along VERY nicely. I sketched out the above diagram the other day (and made a video) which is the basic breakdown of the system. I'll explain it in more detail below:

Step 1. You're confused. You're not sure what you should be doing (the ???).

Step 2. Goal writing. This could be done a number of ways, visually, artistically, etc. The way I do it is by writing 10 goals in the first person present (I have a beautiful girlfriend with...) If you've never done any goal writing, I recommend doing this every day for about 2 weeks straight. It allows the goals "normalize."

Step 3. Goal selection. Look at your ten goals. Which one goal would help you the most? Actually... Watch this 1:40 minute video. Brian breaks it down quickly and clearly. I think it helps to form it as a question with a specific date for the next step (How can I have a beautiful girlfriend with... by November 5th, 2011.)

Step 4. Brain storm how you can achieve that goal. There are lots of ways to brainstorm. You can hit google and look for a way you like. The two ways I use the most is "mind mapping" and taking the question above and answering it 20 times (got that one from Brian T. as well).

Step 5. Create an action plan. Like Brian said in the video you want to do one thing every day that takes you a step closer to your main goal. The action plan you create is your guide for this. Some people recommend making a list of shit to do the night before and then knocking it out the next day.

Step 6. ACT! This is pretty self explanatory but now you should have a clear focus (one main goal) and a plan. Work it!

3 Way Fork:

• Goal writing is something you should go back to as often as you can (some would say daily) even while you're working on your main goal. The daily/regular goal writing will give you preliminary "warning" that your focus is naturally shifting.
• A change of goals happens when... some major life event changes priorities or you grow out of that goal. Nothing wrong with that, get back to goal writing. ;)
• Achievement Unlocked! Celebrate! You just completed the goal you were working on. Chillax and when you're ready, figure out what the next move will be.

Note: These goals are short term (under one year) goals. I have a different process for 5/10/50 year goals.

tl;dr Look at the picture. Win @ life.