Scientific Research & Self-Development Activism
It has been interesting today.
A normal Friday in the office for me. Nothing out of the ordinary.
But - it has been pissing down with rain and the weather forecast shows no conceivable let-up for at least the next few hours.
What I notice at times like these is how much the weather affects people. I have lost count of the number of times today I have heard the complaint of "What a miserable day it is..." or similar.
Well - it certainly is wet. And cold. And windy. But miserable? Why attribute misery to something which is simply nature?
If I were to do that then I would be reactive to something which I have no influence over and which no person on earth has any influence over. And in doing so I would be essentially bringing "misery" upon myself - by linking my happiness and wellbeing to the weather.
So I choose not to do that.
I was probably not always this way. It is hard to remember now. Perhaps there was a time when I was - to some degree.
I am not talking about this in order to put down those who are that way. My reason for speaking about this is simply that I notice such behaviours and it reminds me of how glad I am that I feel I am not reactive to things which are beyond my control.
At another level - and moving beyond this simple example - what I am alluding to here is that there are different ways to live your life. One way is to take the "victim" role and feel that things such as the weather (or whatever else it might be) are messing with your life and your happiness. Another way is simple acceptance - to accept that there are some things which are beyond your control and subsequently to not waste any time or energy concerning yourself with trying to change them or wishing they were different - but just doing whatever you need to do to deal with whatever adversity they may present.
In this case for me, today, it might mean I get a bit wet walking to my car. I have an umbrella - but if it is windy I may well get wet anyway - but shit, it's only water. Hardly anything to get too concerned about. And in the event I do get wet once I get to my car I have a heater and when I get home I can change. So in the scheme of things - the potential disadvantage for me personally is unlikely to be of any significance.
So the theme of this post - is about reactivity. Or, more to the point reducing reactivity. And in doing so - taking charge of personal happiness and moving out of the victim role. It is something which I feel is of vital importance.
I think people say it's miserable cos they associate it with being wet and cold and that does put people down
but I understand what you're getting at- why let things get you down that you can't change? :)
Well yes - I suppose from my perspective that is the whole point in highlighting reactivity. If you allow yourself to be so reactive to the things around you which you cannot change then you are making yourself reliant upon good weather (or whatever it may be) before you can enjoy your life - and therefore you put yourself at the mercy of it. Not a good way to live
Weather does get your mood down for sure but thats only natural i think because if the weather is shit for a couple of days or weeks it means most people stay indoors and wont receive any sunlight or fresh air.
The lack of that is not healthy i think and will get ur mood down and health down.
But i totally agree the point of the victim role wich most people get themselves into all the time. This is all about what people belief into. If you belief that youre a weak retarded person who cant do anything then you will most certainly be that person you believe to be. I even think ur belief can be the cause of illness or cure illness because of the hormones/chemicals ur brain and body releases when unhappy, stressed ect.
I think you also should watch some videos from dr bruce lipton he has alot of usefull things to say about this subject and much more.
I agree the weather can affect people. But it doesn't have to. It doesn't bother me if the weather is bad. Of course it can be inconvenient but it certainly doesn't affect my mood in any significant way.
staying indoors all the time aint healthy ur point is true.