Scientific Research & Self-Development Activism
How do we tell someone they are on the wrong path, or maybe not on the right path? Mayhap that's too pretentious... How do we explain and describe our own faults, in a way that encourages another to not follow the same path and find the same obstacles? The same warning was given to me but I turned it aside and now find myself giving the same warning. I know why I ignored it. Pursuit of quick pleasure, didn't understand or believe the warning, and just thought I was superior to all those before me. Yet armed with all this, I still cannot articulate this to someone successfully enough for them to choose the better path. I am speaking generally but there is a specific person I'd rather not see fail. I have changed my life solely on the premise that my younger siblings look up to me and ultimately will make decisions based on what they saw from me. I realized this later than I wish. My hippie side says let them choose and learn, but as with a computer some lines of code cause irreparable damage. Insight should never come before success. I feel like maybe as a species we sometimes forget survival is our number one priority. When does knowledge that can only begotten learned take priority over a life. I don't think it should. I may be the pot slinging names at a kettle but I have not been confrontational on this, I'd rather be a sign than observer across a rift.
I don't know if you can do anything else. When you cut the strings of expectations in instances like this, I feel like it is ultimately more empowering to a person by showing them that they are the sole person that is capable of the change really. By assuming a place of more experience than the given person, though you may feel it is the exact situation that you fell into, everyone is full of their own learned experiences and paths, and is ultimately entitled to their own choices.
We learn immensely from mistakes, without them we lack the experience itself and the lesson it comes with, instead we believe the word babble without really believing it.
I understand Michael, I'm in a similar position with some choices my father is making in his life after a divorce, however once I stepped out and didn't allow myself to get personally involved in choices that are his, though I feel for him, it is more my fear of him not doing what I think he should be doing...but who am I to impose what i believe is right when I am not in his situation and do not really understand what he is feeling full spectrum? On the basis that I am not full of the things that make him who he is and I really only understand a fraction from my subjective bias ...