This is somewhat an answer to the "should we care" post and to all the hate that was put on the "idiots" that don't want to change the world. But at the same time, it's a whole new discussion that's why I posted it here instead. No need to go read that other post to understand what follows.

First of all, sorry for the obnoxious title, I had to draw your attention.

Two things to remember as you read my post, before I start:

Firstly, keep in mind that the state of mind that I am presently in is probably temporary, maybe not but I don't know, it's just where I'm at in my self development.

Secondly, the title of this discussion may sound controversial on such a pro "sacrifice-for-others-and-for-a-better-world" forum, but hear me out as I try to defend my view, and please try to be open-minded while reading and also while writing me your thoughts.

Presently, I consider myself a non-activist, meaning that I don't try to change the world, or to make it a better place, in any way. Also, this state of mind applies to my personal life : I don't feel the need to accomplish anything, to be proud of myself, in any way. However, I still want to improve my personal happiness and my understanding of who I am (so I hope I still have my place here), which is never complete since I always end thinking "I don't know" when I try to figure myself out. And I am well aware that I may completely change my mind in a few months or years. My life is an ongoing process, and I haven't always been like that. I'll have to talk about my last three years now for you to understand what got me where I am. Pardon me in advance for the time it will take.

So don't get me wrong, I've been there, I posted on this forum 3 years ago and I was all "monk mode" and "we should all sacrifice a part of us to others" and "I want to accomplish a big project" and "I want my life to have meaning" and so on. I've written here about how I felt that need to "be more than just that simple "me". Hell I even got a "props" from Dean on an I Power video!!! Anyway, I felt as if I didn't accomplish anything, as if I wasted my life. I felt that all those years I was a children and I had to become an adult. I felt like I had to learn discipline and responsibilities. I felt like I had to have a positive and strong impact on others... I felt like I had to do my duties as a citizen (getting informed, involved, etc), and as a student (reading more books about philosophy). As an example of what I did to accomplish that, I tried to write a whole fantasy book, to have a positive impact on others and also on myself. I wrote 200 pages and prolly 50 more while preparing my story and my world. I did a similar but smaller thing with learning piano and a few other stuff.

I did all sorts of things, personally and for my contribution to the world, but mostly the book, and it went well for while. I had to write 4 hours everyday and some other stuff as well, but as I look back I realize that I was never completely content with that lifestyle. Something was always a little bit off, or wrong. I was doing all that partly (a big part) from the feeling that I had to. And that never drove me a lot. So I ended up stopping the book, and all the other stuff as well, and I had a paradigm shift in the way I understood myself. And it was such a relief. I don't know what had put me in that "monk" state of mind, maybe all the children TV shows and video games that teach you, in a way, to be a "hero". But I realized I'm no hero, and I don't have to be one to be content with my life. So suddenly, the whole "children to adult, learning discipline, positive impact, meaning of life, getting informed and involved" thing fell apart completely as I observed people and understood something (although I may be wrong) :

People do stuff, not because they feel the need to, but because they like what they do, except things that are necessary for survival of course, and people that extend that "acting on need" thing to unnecessary things tend to be less happy. And I would go as far as saying that people who dedicate their life to helping others also do it because they like it. They have some drive. People are driven by passion, love for what they do. And the passion I had for writing wasn't strong enough, and for the other stuff as well, and I realized that although it's important to be informed as a citizen of a democratic country, I just don't like getting informed, I just don't like reading philosophy books, and so on. I'm a man with no big passions, just a lot of small interests (to reassure you, when it comes to voting wisely, since I'm more or less obliged and I agree about the system, I do my duty although it's boring).

Now, again, don't get me wrong. I like to think, I have opinions. I don't like reading to learn but I LOVE to listen (in my philosophy courses for example) and I LOVE to talk, and I LOVE to think. I can talk and think and listen for HOURS about a political or sociological or philosophical subject. But when it comes to getting my facts right, or to digging into a subject to have a profound understanding of it, I just don't find it fun enough.

Same goes for every other aspect, and this is where it may get controversial and frustrate you. I also stopped trying to have a positive impact on the world, stopped caring about problems of other countries or even problems of my country, I stopped trying to make the world a better place (even if I watch and love the vlogbrothers lol), because I - don't - enjoy - it. To be completely honest, I don't think I'm responsible about others, just because they are humans, or Canadians, or even my own family for that matter! That whole "human race is a big family" thing I don't buy it. I don't think I have the responsibility to help or to contribute more than my laws ask me to. Countries were built to give people the freedom of living their life as they intend and to protect their rights to do so. And if I'll very well admit that I'm not improving my world or my country or my family, I can very well assure you that I'm not making it worse either. Don't see all in black and white guys there are the problems, yes, the solutions, yes, but also what is just neutral, and my defense to the pro-activism is right there. I think it is naive to think that there are only problem-people, and solution-people. Truth is always more complicated than that, always. Things are not clear cut, good or bad, worse or better, etc. 

So enough about the past and my arguments. Here is a glimpse of my life right now. Right now I'm content enjoying simple things as I always did before I went in that "monk" state. I'm happy with my little routines, my "super smash bros 64 thursdays" with my friends, my "tuesday movie night" with other friends, playing tennis or hockey, watching youtube videos (often about important subjects but then again because I find it fun and it makes me think but I don't feel the need or the responsibility to spread the word or whatever). I also have a job of course, and I'm planning on becoming a philosophy teacher after my studies. And the thing is, I presently find nothing wrong with my personal choices (although, and I repeat myself here, it may change, since my way of understanding myself and life has had quite a few paradigm shifts).

Then why the heck do I post this? Well, I want to hear your thoughts, your opinions about someone who made different choices than most of ppl here on this forum. Do I still belong here? (even if I was gone for 3 years lol), since I continue trying to evolve on a personal state but at the same time I don't care for the rest of the world. Are my points defensible? Am I a coward, or lazy? What do you think? Say it all, in a respectful manner please. Try and shake things in my head, that's what I'm here for. I'm here to mix your views with mines and see if it changes my perspective, hoping it can also open your minds to mine.

P.S.  I don't promise I will answer to all of you, I also don't promise I won't be gone again for an other 3 years. I never make any promises.