Some people just seem to treat you like a load of crap. This may happen anywhere you go.
But guys, what I really want you to know, and ask yourself, why do people treat you bad?
Do they have anything against you?
Would YOU have anything against them?

Why would YOU treat someone badly if you didn't know them well enough?
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Too many people in the world, sometimes you (me) plainly just dont care about anyone but yourself.

Harsh but true.
People treat me bad cause I'm a huge asshole.
Sometimes I'll treat someone bad not because of anything against them, but because I'm in a bad mood. Sometimes I will realize that I'm taking a bad day out on someone and that may make me change my attitude, but sometimes I just don't give a damn.

If a day is bad enough, sometimes you really don't care. I don't think I've actually gone out of my way to be an ass to a person I don't know (except when I'm trolling someone, but that's just business).
In my experience, people have treated me poorly because they were dealing with their own personal issues, or simply because they've been having a crummy day. I don't believe any of these individuals had anything against me, just that they didn't know how to communicate their feelings or deal with whatever situation they were going through and then released their anger/frustration by being unpleasant to others. Personally I don't hold grudges and I wouldn't treat anyone poorly unless they did something disrespectful, especially if they hurt someone I cared about. But I'm not going to go out of my way to scheme and plot some sort of revenge. I'd rather put my energy towards the people that matter in my life, then go out and make someone else miserable because I disliked them.
I would say that people that you don't know too well don't treat you well simply because they're in a bad mood or they're simply not interested in what the consequences are of being nasty to you, you have no impact on their lives whatsoever (in their opinion ofcourse) so why should they bother being nice? I rarely ever donate to charities because charities aren't going to help me in any way, and the main reason I am friendly to everybody - even those who treat me badly - is because they could be of use at some point. Obviously I do have a select few people I do not see as usefull but just as friends :).
So what if people acted like that with you?
How would you feel?
Do you think the way you act is right? Do you think its fair?
I don't know why, but I automatically assume people have other motives than just to be nice and I have had this happen to me before, so therefore I just believe everyone is like that. I don't think it's right or nice or fair or any of that but why should I be genuine when to everyone when nobody will be genuine back? Tried it and it just left me feeling used, so no more of that. There are a few people that I know are genuine and I am genuine towards btw, but that amount i can count on both hands out of everyone I know :).
People don't treat me bad. When you're polite and you treat people with respect they usually do the same.
And if some random person treated me badly it wouldn't mean a thing to me. Some people aren't worthy of my attention.

And I really suck in 'having something against people'.
Hello Hiba,

I’m of the opinion that in a big way, we determine ourselves how people act (react really) towards us. A few years ago I went to a wedding and had to dress up in a suit (doesn’t happen often). As I was walking through the town looking for a present, I could see all these young ladies checking me out (I’m not making this up), and I’m thinking it must only be because of the suit.

Having a bit of self confidence and then projecting that into the world around us will mean that other people will see us as being confident. Or if we project ourselves as a victim we’ll be seen as that. And we take ourselves wherever we go.

I try to get along with most people (and I usually do), but being the nice guy has occasionally made me a target for the not nice guys. I’ve learnt that when this happens I need to turn the a*hole switch on, even though it’s all for show – much like wearing a suit. It usually gets me the peace I need in my social circumstance.

But some people are just negative in everything they see, their a*hole switch is permanently on, and their nice guy switch has been disconnected. They’re easy to spot and I think the best approach is to have as little to do with them as possible.

I wouldn’t (I hope) treat someone badly without knowing them first - It’s almost a last resort. No-one’s perfect so yeah, I have no doubt that I have annoyed someone to the extent that they have something against me. I think it’s best not to hold things against people. If someone has done you wrong you need to forgive but not forget. We can’t really forget bad experiences. If someone does them repeatedly (like bullying) how could you forget it? To forget it would be stupid. The answer here is to get over it and not carry it around with you for life. I have to do it and I feel so much better for it. I’ve also seen people who don’t forgive and they carry their anger around with them wherever they go. It weighs them down and it’s so hard for them to be happy.

Are you having trouble with bullies maybe this Click Here! would interest you? We take ourselves wherever we go and bullies are everywhere.

Hmmm... “Get over it” one of the harshest yet truest phrases in the English language. Easy for some people but not so for others.

Brett
Nice post, was going to say something similar about how the way you act can have a large effect on how you're treated, also some people are just negative in life and anyone can be a bit sometimes on off days so best to not let it affect you.
they do it to low your value, but I never let them do this cause when they try it they automaticaly kiss my ass ;)

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