There is a simple human truth which will make a world of difference to any interaction with the opposite sex.
I was never really 'good' at talking to girls, I was good at talking, but not to girls...
One day I stopped giving a damn and over-analyzing. You'll find that if you are truly comfortable it shows and people pick up on that without even realizing it.
A nice easy trick is to ask a girl her name or introduce yourself and before she can answer, break off contact and say excuse me I've just seen someone I have to say hello to. It's important to seem truly dis-interested.
This does 2 things.
Firstly you have now given the impression that you know people and your time is precious. Girls equate this to your level of social importance (whether they'll ever admit it or not).
Secondly, later on in the evening when you 'happen' past again, you can say, oh hi, sorry I didn't catch your name earlier, my name's "whatever"...
I hope no-one thinks less of me for sharing this sort of insider guy info..
When I was younger I was in a similar position of vodka, I overanalyzed everything and I was the nice guy.
The first hint that I got that I was doing something wrong was that my ex told me that I was not selfish enough. She missed the tension and especially the make-up sex after it.
Now I understand why, I was too predictable, and females have a much more dynamic range of emotions than males have. They need some kind of challenge otherwise it gets boring and their passion drops out. Be unpredictable, be misterious.
The other thing I discovered is that most females have some emotional unsecurity in them. It is probably of the hormones, and the day of the month, but they need someone that is stable and secure that stays cool when they are unsecure. Like an anchor during a storm. If you want to have a girlfriend, then you as a man must be able to guide them in turbulent times.
Females tends to get attracted to stable men, and gets repelled by men in a mess that constantly needs some motherly security from the woman. For the girl this feels like she is your mother, and you wont have sex or passion with you mother since that is incest.
Never be desperate in finding a girlfriend. First make sure you feel happy and stable and you don't need a womand to have a good and interesting life. This to my supprise actually attracts women! And I also notice in my own girlfriend that the passion increases when I have contacts with other girlfriends. She knows that I can go and live without her, she knows that I have other choises, and she knows that I am with her because I want to, and not because I need to. I am less predictble like this and that attracts her even more. Keeps her passion busy. :-)
I hope he accepts what is written here since it sounds very contriuitive to what he might believe.
Up untill 5 years ago I would also not have believed what I have written here but I see proof everywhere.
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