Comment by Jesse C on May 24, 2012 at 1:21pm

I understand you with the work part - had my first job since school/study last year - factory work is not fun.  I think you should definitely get onto your boss about the overtime thing if you think he is in the wrong.

"WHY THE HELL ARE MALES SO WEIRD?!!?!"

Haha.. Are you meaning this as a rhetorical question?..

"But some dudes like to play games like women"

Like gaming games or games/messing with people?

You must still be buzzed, I don't really follow what you mean... aha.

Comment by Tim Young on May 24, 2012 at 11:05pm

Hate to break it to you but most men are very immature and many stay that way their entire lives.

Comment by March E. on May 25, 2012 at 1:02am

@Tim    Goddammit >.<  That makes the both of us.  So I can't trust your man-stincts then?     

@Jesse   Not a rhetorical question. But fine...don't enlighten me in understanding man secrets.  

Comment by Tim Young on May 25, 2012 at 1:13am

Would you really trust someone because they tell you you can?

I don't consider myself to be immature but certainly I have my moments.

My thinking is that it is best not to trust anyone that they are as they claim - but instead make your own educated assessment as you get to know them.

Even then - you will sometimes find that it takes an inordinate amount of time to uncover certain antisocial (or just plain horrible) character traits that some individuals are very practised at keeping under wraps.

 

Comment by Jesse C on May 25, 2012 at 3:00am

I agree with Tim.  Many are very immature and stay that way.

I don't really have any 'man secrets' to share.  What do you think is weird about Males?

Personally I think a lot of other guys are dickheads.  I don't like them...  At high school most people wanted to hangout or associate with the cool/macho people who were often good at sport (jocks?).  I was good enough at my school to play rugby in the top team with many of them.  But I was one of the few who didn't hangout with them outside of the sports team environment.  I knew what they were like.  They are sort of just pleasure seekers.  They just want to beat someone else in competition (more like dominate), get pissed, get girls, and look cool.

The people who didn't hang out with them (normal people) who weren't labeled as 'nerds' still seemed to aspire to what they had.  Everyone wanted to go to the cool kids parties.  Everyone talked about the hottest girls at school.  All the guys at school would rave about fights that happened or fights that were going to happen.  There would be a mob of 100 people circled around a fight all yelling and cheering.

Comment by SparTom007 - Tom on May 25, 2012 at 5:09am

After I read this, I knew people would mostly talk about the "GOD DAMN MEN!" thing (not a direct quote). I will just say, I don't like the whole men vs women thing or categorising people because we are all unique and only behave according to past experiences. The reason men and women have similar experiences according to gender is not because of their gender, it is because people treat them differently and similarly because of their gender. I think it's closed minded and unfair of you to categories people by gender just because of your experiences :P You've just had unfortunate experiences, there are plenty of cool genuine guys (like me ;P) out there haha

As for the rest. I thought you'd quit but I understand why you stayed. I used to work at walmart and I felt similar and encountered a lot of similar problems and some worse ones like managerial bullying that I couldn't take anymore. Eventually I started answering back when managers talked down to me and although it made people respect me more, I was warned by colleagues that had worked there for many years that people like me in the past were targeted. I was basically warned that they will look for things they can use an excuse to fire me anyway, so I told my managers to go fuck themselves one shift, and walked home. True story lol, I felt like such a badass for one of the first times (I am not a badass, refer to my videos and blogs xD)

Keep hanging in there March. You're an awesome person from what I have experienced talking to you before and unfortunately, the only way for people to make it in this life, for people like us with talent but no prestigious background (sorry if this sounds like I am being big headed, it's not the intention) is to either brown nose our way up until we can make it on our own, or take a completely different root to what society considers normal or even acceptable sometimes.

Comment by Bart on May 25, 2012 at 10:53am

the stuff about overtime should be somewhere in your contract

Comment by SparTom007 - Tom on May 26, 2012 at 2:51am

@Bart

just cos it's in the contract, doesn't mean they will do it unfortunately

and if you point that out, they will look for other things they can get out of you legally or find ways to sack you

thats what happened to me at walmart anyway

just depends how good your managers are and stuff

*I don't blame the managers, they just get told to do what they have to by their bosses, and so on and so forth up the ranks. it sucks

Comment by March E. on May 26, 2012 at 6:58pm

I supposed I did have pretty negative experiences growing up in a very "boys be like this" and "girls supposed to be like that" sort of upbringing. It kind of reminds me how I always rebelled whenever my dear mother used to try to put me in a dress to make me more "ladylike." She gave up after several years of fighting over control of my wardrobe and my identity. So yea, I guess I agree with you there when you say that we act the way we act because of how society categorizes and treats us differently due to gender. It does bug me a little when men try so hard to be "manly." 

Yea, I want to just quit suddenly. I can see why the last person who had my position before I was hired just quit all the sudden. I have a better chance of finding another job while I'm employed than when I am not employed. And yes...I'm hanging, dude. I'm hanging on. My coworkers told me the other day that I'm like a machine that's always working. Gotta work on balancing things out. XD.

I actually do have some sort of prestigious  background, but it's pretty irrelevant in today's day and age. If it were not for some historical events that had happened during the time my grandmother was still young, I would have been a landowner who would have inherited a lot of land like how it was back in the old days. My family has always kept that pretty hush hush when I was growing up. I think I would have turned out to be a huge biiaaatch who would feel entitled to everything if I grew up in a family of wealthy landowners. To be honest, I'm not that awesome. There are a lot of things that I have recently paid attention to regarding myself that needs some serious fixing. 

You're right about people like us having to go make our way through life in a different route than most people. I'm an artist at heart. Society right now doesn't seem to care much for artists. Starving artist is a term I hear way too often. My family looks down on art unless it makes money or recognition, but I know how art can create a transformative experience for others and that's a very powerful thing that is often largely underestimated by many people today. Unfortunately, art has been used to manipulate by mass media and large corporations.   

Comment by March E. on May 26, 2012 at 7:21pm

@ Bart

My boss found loopholes in the system. I'm officially put down in the records as a part-timer, but I'm working full-time so I apparently learned that I don't get benefits of a full-time position and that includes overtime. So no overtime pay for me. That's really dirt cheap for my boss. If I don't work for her full time, she'll find ways and reasons to fire me. And I need to be employed if I want to increase my success at finding another job. I fucking hate being taken advantage of. But...money is something I'll have to grind hardcore for. It does get intense knowing I'm being watched like being in a nazi camp, but it's a good thing I'm not scared shitless of my boss. My dad ran away to the wrong country, but everyone wanted to go to America back in the days. Everyone only saw America. He should have fled to Scandinavia. Free education. HELL YEA! It would make it easier to focus more on my dreams than to focus more on surviving financially. 

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