Many people on this earth seem to share the same fear, fear of pain. Whether it is emotional in the form of rejection or physical with a fear or needles, everyone seems to seek to avoid being hurt, even driving themselves to hurt themselves physically to help cope with emotional pain. We seek to 'band-aid' our hurts by denying it's effect; sayng it doesn't hurt us, or displace the anger we feel at our distress by 'taking it out' on someone or something else, but rather then actually dealing with whatever it is that was hurt us, these solutions just cause temporary relief to the situation and have disasterous long-term effect due to us "bottling it up".

Another well experienced effect of what is, ironically not pain itself, but the threat of pain; is hesitentism. Hesitentism is a direct result of man's quest not to be hurt taken overboard, avoiding things they know they'll enjoy in order to avoid potentially hurtfull situations, a physical and well-known example of this can be found on just about every school yard when a child refuses to slide down the pole all thier friends have b/c they're convinced they'll get hurt. The same can be said emotionally about the boy/girl who's shy to ask someone out due to a fear of rejection.

What many people do not realize is the key to dealing with pain, is not in fact avoiding it, but facing it. ''What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger", i am not suggesting going out and getting shot, but not to hold back just b/c you might get a booboo, life was meant to be lived and enjoyed, not spend hiding in your room or brooding over what might have been.

Our greatest regrets and not the things we did, but the leaps we never made, the chances we never took

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Comment by Dean Leysen on March 30, 2009 at 1:03pm
This is great advice, Gawd! I definitely agree.

Avoiding all pain (especially the emotional kind) in most cases leads to a decrease of self esteem and self-reliance even. The only way to build a strong character for yourself and to work on your core confidence is basically to take hits and realize that it's not a big deal; realize that you can become indifferent and even immune towards many types of emotional pain, and recover very fast from others. This realization in itself makes you feel a lot stronger and more equipped to deal with life's many challenges and obstacles.

The fear of all pain is per definition a fear of all success. Because no success can be attained without the risk of pain.
Comment by Homero Fierro on March 30, 2009 at 11:41pm
I've been kicked in the balls a lot lately... metaphoricly...
But u r right, i have been biting my self a LOT lately....
The problem is i avoid facing my problems so much i think i dont remember them, but they're stuck in my subconscious...
So... damnit i need to know my self and stop believeing that would make my selfish...
Im so fucked up XD
Comment by GAWD on March 31, 2009 at 5:41am
meh, this is just a recurring cycle i've seen with my friends and slightly in myself recently

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