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Comment by Beanow on July 19, 2011 at 4:56pm

There's 2 things going on here.

1) Your parents don't know how to raise you so they stick a little too rigidly to the 'normal' way. Telling you to go to school so you can get a proper job and all will be well. Because your mom is insecure about this she will go on a guilt-trip to get you to stick to this normal path.

This is a problem they have that unfortunately affect you but is not necessarily your responsibility to do something about. They can go to family therapy for issues like these.

 

2) You're just going from a kid that needs input to a teen that has a mind of his own. Naturally you'll start to question things in life.

Well keep questioning it, challenge everything and get into discussions with your parents about them. But also stay in school and stay at your parents house because they'll provide you with opportunities to challenge and learn even more things in life. Moving out right now would be a bad idea because you'll deprive yourself of these opportunities and before you know it you'll be caught up with having to work to pay your basic expenses. Learn more first because yes at 15 you will probably go down the gutter on your own.

Comment by maikel de haar on July 19, 2011 at 11:25am

i think everyone your age has those problems with parents lol its called puberty and ur mom doesnt know how to handle it so she does like that. Just do stuff ur way dont care about the consequenses that ur mom sais. Dont worry ur mom eventually will love you for the person you really are. It needs time and eventually she has no other choice then to accept.

Dont take everything so serious age 15-21 can be some confusing time, just enjoy every day of it  man explore like you never done before and just dont give a shit. When i think back of my puberty it was so fucking awesome.

Comment by LimE on July 18, 2011 at 11:43pm

Colin Thanks for the great reply! The thing is that i think i already are making that thing where you start thinking in an other way. Last summer i started thinking how the world works. It was insane! Not im trying to incestigate in society and how other peoples life works witch i found very bad for myself :/ Anyway. How should i manage to follow what she says? Because when she says alot of stuff (like my farther) about how i could end up if i dosnt do my homework and stuff - It just makes me feel so god damn bad! :( I feel like "I cant handle all this. Why dont i just jump of a bridge or something? hey wait. I could always go into my computer and try to relax" and then i does that... Listens to music and trying to feel myself. But that dosnt help the way she is threading me by the way they are trying to scare me to do some stuff.

Comment by Rocker01 on July 18, 2011 at 6:54pm

I am going through the exact same thing only I am 21 and have moved out. I still talk to her and everything but I think the hardest thing for some parents is letting go of their kids to go off and do something with their life.

 

Sure they can argue about it differently but that is the truth pure and simple. It sucks because parents can say that they have been living longer than you so that is supposed to make you think they are wiser and are always right but that is only true to a certain degree in my opinion and in some cases not at all.

But hey I am just trying to help with my opinion. It is your opinion that matters.

Comment by Colin on July 18, 2011 at 6:28pm

Yeah bro listen I was in the exact same situation when I was 15 years old and I can tell you that if you had a time machine that would allow you to see 10 years into the future you will realize a lot of new things about your situation with your mom that would dramatically change what you are feeling emotionally right now.

Heres the situation with me, I had a lot of ideas when I was 15 and those ideas were based on the environment that I grew up in. Thats how any creature in the world grows up. They make decisions and opinions based on what was given to them instinctively (your mom's genetics) and what you learn as a small child in your hometown, school, church, etc. Now at any point in time you have a certain belief system. This is what is mentioned in Athene's documentary as what your Left Brain is in charge of. Go listen to that part again if you need a reminder.

Now the problem you are having is that you have a belief system in your left brain and you are trying to find new answers to life with your right brain, am I understanding you properly? I think every man goes through that in their developing years, I know I did. And in my situation I saw myself as being my mom's enemy much more often than friend. Your mom is a different human being than you, she has a conciousness in her neurons that is similar to yours and has a greater connection to you in some aspects than any other human will have but that doesn't mean that she IS you. Although the line is grey here, you are very similar to your mom so it would make sense to her that you would make some of the same choices that she would make and so when you don't she gets worried and often mothers don't know how to deal with that in any other way other than fear. She fears for your future and thinks that she needs to do everything she can to make sure she protects you from screwing your life up. Now, in reality you could have completely different views for your life and that is totally fine, there is no reason to think that you are currently hoping to one day die of a drug overdose in a gutter or to kill yourself while drunk driving. You don't want any of those things for yourself but your mom doesn't understand that you are going to fight those things in your own way.

Now going back to my first point the fact that you are only 15 years old right now has a much bigger implication on this topic than you might think. Your left brain's current belief system is far from complete. Trust me dude, its farther from complete than you could possibly imagine so please don't try. Just realize that one day you will go to college or perhaps the peace corp or whatever you choose to do and you will begin to learn things about yourself that you can't even dream of right now and you will realize a lot of what you and your mom differed about when you were young was simply different roads leading to the same place. The thing about moms is that they can't see where your road you are imagining for yourself is headed so its your job to articulate to her that you know you want good things for your life  but you are young and you are figuring out how to get there. For now listen to what she says because there is a possibility that a lot of it will turn out to be true one day and you will tell her that. But be careful because no one is perfect and a lot of her views will turn out to disagree with your adult self and that is natural too. For instance I am very opposed to conservative pro-american ideals that the Repulbican party in the USA support but when I was in high school I was a very harcore republican. My mom is a republican and we agreed back in the day but we don't anymore so you never know what will change, you may think a lot of things you differ on will remain that way but you are a 15 year old man and you are about to enter the period of your life where you will go through the most intellectual change of your whole life and that just isn't easy to imagine. So like